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6 Reasons to Swipe Left On Dating Apps
Do you feel like you have spent far too long on apps and sites that promised you would find a reason to delete them? The secret lies in knowing what to look for — and what to avoid.
With work taking up so much time in the week that there is barely any time to make new friends or maintain a decent social life, more and more people are using apps and dating sites to seek out meaningful relationships. The problem is, literally anyone can sign up to an app — no social skills required. Consequently, there is a lot of chaff mixed in with the wheat. It has to be said: fewer and fewer guys on these apps seem to have basic social skills, let alone what it takes to build and maintain a healthy, functioning relationship.
In an increasingly lonely age, it often feels like online dating is the only option available to those of us seeking more meaningful romantic connections. And as a member of the LGBT+ community, I have to admit that online dating often feels like the safest option, if not the only way for me to connect with other alphabet people aside from the creepy old man who lives a couple of streets down and keeps trying to accost me in the supermarket.
Of course, not everyone uses apps like Hinge in the hopes of findin the one (an increasingly elusive concept), but that doesn’t mean that everyone is up front about their intentions, even when they know that you are looking for a relationship. It’s also important to realise that in the gay world, the problem of misogyny is replaced by issues of misandry. Some times it feels like the problems that women face in the heteronormative world are transposed and intensified in the gay community, as men reinforce shitty behaviour in other men, all in the in the pursuit of dominance or acceptance. Of course, this isn’t every non-heteronormative man, but it is a large number. The saddest thing seems to be that monogamy is fading further and further from the mainstream as more and more people feel the need to hedge their bets.
Here are a few red flags to avoid on Hinge, that should hopefully keep you available for Mr Right without having to spread yourself across a smorgasbord of losers.
